I can still remember the first moment it was I realised that I respected Charlotte Dawson. A long time watcher of all things fashion and model related I was watching an episode of Australias Next Top Model when Charlotte referred to 3 contestants as the “Dapto Dogs”. Sure having not seen the behaviour prior to this you would be forgiven for thinking this was pretty harsh however having just watched an episode where these 3 contestants persecuted another contestant until she was in tears and then harassed her for crying I completely understood the pack mentality reference and what I respected was that to Charlotte Dawson bullying was an absolute no no.
I have to admit I was really upset when I heard that Charlotte had died and I have since had a little bit of a cry about it but then I can’t imagine anyone not being upset. Here was this beautiful and vivacious woman who battled mental illness and was not afraid to admit it. She attempted to bring it out of the shadows and take the stigma away from it and she also attempted to take down the cyber bullies at the same time. But life is a game and sometimes even if you win, you lose and the loser this time is not Charlotte but us because we miss out on her particular brand of magic, because anytime when mental health problems or bullying or suicide wins we all lose.
As bloggers we are aware of cyber bullying better than most, we see it on our twitter feeds and sometimes in the comment sections of blogs and I for one an amazed and appalled at the anger, hatred and for lack of a better word trolling that occurs. It used to be that people could express different opinions and maybe not agree but definitely not attack others for it. But the keyboard that allows freedom of expression for some also allows freedom of nastiness. Where does it stop? Where do we draw the line?
As a fan of MKR (My Kitchen Rules to those of you not in the know) I came across the below picture.
To me this photo oversteps the mark. I am not a fan of the couple in the photo infact I have tweeted several times about how David will be arrogant about how bad someones cooking is and then he plates up something worse but at no point would I ever comment on how they look. As someone with social anxiety I often wonder what people think when they see me out with my husband and so when I saw this photo I was quite angry for a number of reasons.
The first reason being they are in a cooking competition and not a modelling one and the second reason being that they are a couple who claim to be truly in love, I can’t think of a single woman who wouldn’t want her partner to think of her as beautiful so I guess my question is why do we care whether or not this man finds this woman gorgeous and who is above judgement enough to state that their concept of beauty is better than his. We are all different and excuse me for thinking that’s a good thing.
I’ve heard it said today infact that Charlotte Dawson should of just stayed off twitter and that this other couple should expect things like this for being on a tv show and I have to admit my jaw dropped in disbelief. I felt like we had gone back to the days when it was said a girl was “asking for it” if she wore a short skirt. A victim of cyber bullying is blamed for defending herself on twitter uh uh I don’t think so.
When did it stop being socially acceptable to be kind. When did we stop listening to our mothers who told us if we didn’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything. When did human decency go out the window so that online bullying got to a point where peoples lives are at risk. Why can’t we be like Martin Luther King and stop judging on appearances and base our opinions on the content of peoples character?
Linking up with Jess for IBOT – promise Sunshine Rach will be back next time just needed to get my rant on.