When I Loved Myself Enough

There is a beautiful book written by Kim McMillan called when I Loved Myself Enough I first discovered it about 10 years ago when I bought it for my sister who has never been a particularly confident person what I never expected was 2 things.

  1. That I would be so touched by the book that the message would stick with me.
  2. That I would ever be out of the “fat” shame that was my self esteem enough to write a list of my own.

I was speaking to a close friend by email the other day and she made a comment about how my way of thinking seemed to change that I was blossoming like a butterfly and instead of thinking it was an unwarranted compliment like I always did I found myself thinking “you know what I do feel different”.

So I decided to take the books lead and write my own list.

When I Loved Myself Enough I started focusing on being HEALTHY not skinny.

When I Loved Myself Enough I realised I didn’t have to apologise for being who I am.

When I Loved Myself Enough I learnt that there is a difference between responding to an accusation and being defensive and that very few people will listen if you are defensive.

When I Loved Myself Enough I stopped feeling guilty everytime I said no to something.

When I Loved Myself Enough I realised it’s ok not to like everyone

When I Loved Myself Enough I realised that there is a difference between complaining and being in legitimate pain.

When I Loved Myself Enough I found that there is ALWAYS time for exercise and the way it makes me feel.

When I Loved Myself Enough I discovered that some days you just want to stay in bed particularly when it’s cold and that’s ok.

When I Loved Myself Enough I learnt that how I feel on the inside reflects how I look on the outside.

When I Loved Myself Enough I found that the opinion of me that matters most is mine.

Full of Love

Full of Love

So I hope this Tuesday finds you full of self love my sunshines xxx

<Link up with Essentially Jess because IBOT>

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31 thoughts on “When I Loved Myself Enough

  1. Beautiful list. This was my obsession when I was a teenager. At some point, I stopped thinking about it. Reflecting I do love myself. I have a lot of self respect, and am constantly grateful. x

  2. I’ve been thinking about a few things you’ve said (in the last few posts) and I had an instance of it the other day. A friend and I were at the Roller Derby and she was talking about buying skates, and how she’d skate to school and back every day. I said “you’d be like Roller Girl…” then at the same time I said “except not with the porno stuff” and she said “but not as skinny”. I pointed out that it was telling that she chose the weight aspect for herself and I chose the potentially insulting porno aspect…(Roller Girl is from Boogie Nights, for those that don’t know and roller skates around naked)
    Funny that we see 2 different things in the same comment.

  3. Love this post Rach. A lot I the thing on your list really resonate with me today too, I needed to read them. I think I will bookmark this post so I can come back as be reminded of your positive attitude when I need some adjusting to my own. Which is often!

  4. K has this book at home – thank you for reminding me about it. I will be hunting it down tonight and having another read of it because I just love your list and know that I can come up with something that is just right for me.
    Have the best day !
    Me

  5. ‘When I Loved Myself Enough I found that the opinion of me that matters most is mine’
    What a lovely state of mind to be in, the above my favourite line and a state I am working to achieve. Great post! I will have to look for this book 🙂

  6. How I feel on the inside reflects on the outside… So true! Reminds me of how important it is to surround yourself with people who love you. It sounds like a great book. X

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